Random Musings

That Summer I Dated a Deadbeat Dad

Last summer I decided to try online dating on a whim. After screening all of the messages I received, I struck up conversation with this really nice guy, who I will call “Pete.” For all intents and purposes, he was everything I thought I was looking for in a guy. Smart, cute, funny. Nothing like… Read More That Summer I Dated a Deadbeat Dad


Fifty Percent

“What do you think makes a divorce contentious?” As the professor waited for a response I looked around the room to see what anyone would say. I knew that I was going to be the only person who would really know the answer. Most – if not all – people in my class had probably never even gotten married, let… Read More Fifty Percent


The Stuff No One Tells You About Divorce

I found out my divorce was official via a random email on a Saturday morning around 4 am about 6 weeks after I had moved out of our home and in with my parents. I couldn’t sleep so I picked up my phone, and suddenly saw the email from my attorney. Somehow the divorce had become finalized and… Read More The Stuff No One Tells You About Divorce


That’s Not Fair

 Every morning at around 6:15am Henry opens my door and jumps into my bed. Most of the time I wake up when he does this, other times I don’t notice until I feel someone kicking me. I haven’t slept in for at least 5 months and I do blame someone for that, which I… Read More That’s Not Fair


What Getting Divorced Taught Me

One of the things that I regret doing when I was going through my divorce was taking advice from everyone.  This is what happened: My divorce was dramatic. That was mostly my fault, as I chose to share it with more people than I probably should have.  It didn’t help that the papers were served… Read More What Getting Divorced Taught Me


Day 24: Alis Volat Propiis

When I first knew I was getting a divorce I told my then therapist, “I don’t know how to be an adult.” Even though I had done things like register to vote, buy a house, get married, have children, get a job, pay bills and taxes and all of those things that adults typically do,… Read More Day 24: Alis Volat Propiis


Day 13: No Phone Thursday

I left my phone at home today by mistake.  I was on my way to work and I thought about turning around and driving home to grab it, then I remembered that I am writing this paper on nomophobia. So I thought that this would be a good exercise in going one day without my… Read More Day 13: No Phone Thursday


Day 10: Half-you Half-me

Like I mentioned in a post the other day, I believe that in every story there are always multiple versions of the truth. That is because people can only give an accurate picture from their own point of view. Some people are capable of looking at things from multiple points of view. For some, however,… Read More Day 10: Half-you Half-me


Who Gets to Keep the Family?

Recently I was reading a post another blogger wrote about in laws.  When you get divorced, what do you call the people who have always been your “in laws?” Do they become your “exes,” too?  Do they become something else?  Or do they become nothing at all? This is the link to the post I was reading: http://goodmombadwife.com/2014/10/13/am-i-missing-something/ When we were… Read More Who Gets to Keep the Family?

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When Life Turns out Differently than You Planned

When I was a little girl, I had a plan. After I graduated from high school, I would go to college and get a degree. Then I would travel the world for 3 years, after which point I would get married and have 4 children. Three boys, and a little girl who would be protected… Read More When Life Turns out Differently than You Planned